New Year's Resolution: A resolution for a happy life in the new year: change yourself, not others..
- byShikha Srivastava
- 01 Jan, 2026
We are all surrounded by many people in our daily lives—in our families, workplaces, and society. Every person has different thoughts, temperaments, habits, and perspectives on life. This is natural, as no two people can be exactly alike. Despite this, we often start expecting others to think like us, act like us, and prioritize our opinions. This is where problems begin. When we try to change others, the result is only stress, dissatisfaction, and conflict. If we want our relationships to remain harmonious and our lives to be happy, it is wise to focus on changing ourselves, not others.

Ego Creates Distance in Relationships
Whether it's family, friendships, or the office environment, the biggest reason for strained relationships is often our ego. Sometimes the other person is saying something correct, but we don't accept it simply because we feel it will hurt our ego. This small thing gradually becomes the cause of resentment and distance. Some people always consider themselves superior to others and believe their opinion is the ultimate truth. Such a mindset fills relationships with bitterness. To maintain relationships, it is essential that we put aside our ego, understand the other person's perspective, and learn to overlook minor issues. This small change can prevent major conflicts.
Avoid Trying to Change Others
Often, people spend their time and energy trying to make others conform to their expectations. The truth is, changing someone's fundamental nature is almost impossible. The more we try to change others, the more frustrated we become. Those who remain calm and composed in every situation find solutions to problems easily. Experts also believe that cheerful people are largely free from problems like stress, depression, high blood pressure, and anxiety. Therefore, it is wise to focus on bringing about change within ourselves.
Maintain a Positive Mindset
No relationship is entirely within our control. Negative situations will persist until we understand things from others' perspectives. When expectations take over, we start finding fault in others. This not only makes us unhappy but also troubles those around us. It's better to adapt to the circumstances. As soon as your perspective changes, things start looking positive, and your mind remains happy. Numerous studies prove that people with a positive mindset are physically and mentally healthier.

Examine Yourself
It's not necessary that we are always right. It's important to recognize our weaknesses, mistakes, and habits that unknowingly bother others. First and foremost, it's essential to understand ourselves honestly and accept our shortcomings. Only when there is a balance between the mind and intellect can we make the right decisions. If we maintain a positive outlook, it becomes easier to accept our mistakes. Bringing about change in ourselves reduces stress, keeps negativity at bay, and makes life more balanced. Making positive changes in ourselves is truly the first step towards a happy life, leading to good health, a cheerful mind, and harmonious relationships.
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