In Indian society, divorce isn't just considered a decision between two people; it becomes an issue involving the entire family, relatives, and society. This is why many couples try for years to keep the relationship going—at least until the children grow up a little, meaning they become more mature. Let's learn about the reasons behind this from Dr. Neetu Tiwari (MBBS, MD Psychiatry, Senior Resident, NIIMS Medical College and Hospital, Greater Noida).

The Pressure of the Social Image of the 'Whole Family'
Dr. Neetu says that in Indian culture, the image of the ideal family—mother, father, and children—is highly valued. Parents often fear how society will view their children after divorce. They fear questions at school, taunts from relatives, or discussions in the neighborhood. In many places, divorce is still seen as a failure, not a wise decision. Parents bear this social burden and, in an attempt to protect their children from it, postpone divorce for years.

Fear for the Emotional Security of Young Children
Most parents believe that young children are emotionally vulnerable and that divorce can have a profound impact on their psyche. They believe that separation can cause fear, confusion, or insecurity. However, experts' experience shows that children are more affected in a home with constant conflict, tension, and cold arguments than in a home with a calm and respectful separation. A calm environment provides children with much more stability.

Guilt and Self-Blame
Indian parents consider it their responsibility to sacrifice for their children. Sometimes, they put their own peace of mind and happiness on the back burner, thinking that divorce will "break up their children's home." However, children raised in an environment of constant conflict often become fearful of future relationships, may lack self-confidence, and develop emotional instability. This means that the pain their parents seek to protect them from gradually becomes a part of their lives.

Financial Dependence and Responsibilities
Financial dependence is a major factor, especially for women. Many mothers stay in their marriage until their children are older or independent. Many fathers, meanwhile, delay divorce because they fear alienating their children or the complicated legal process.

The Burden of Emotional Responsibility
Many parents are well aware that the relationship has lost its happiness, yet they persist for their children. They feel it is their responsibility to maintain the home, even if it costs them their mental health. This sense of duty, social expectations, and love for their children all contribute to the persistent postponement of divorce.

What is truly important for children?
Experts believe that children need a "calm and safe environment," not a "perfect family." If parents lack mutual respect, are constantly stressed, or have a stressful home environment, it can be even more damaging to children.

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