Just like a bird finds its nest empty after its children fly away, parents feel somewhat similar. When children grow up and move away from home for studies or a career, many parents feel lonely and sad. This is called empty nest syndrome. This is not a disease, but a natural emotional reaction. It especially affects those people whose identity and routine are limited to taking care of children. In such a situation, how do you prepare yourself and give a new flight to your relationship with children who have gone away?

Be emotionally prepared

It is very important to understand that the child's progress is necessary for his career and personal development. Parents should be emotionally prepared for this change. When you accept that the child's going away is necessary for his growth, then you will be able to see this change positively.

Rebuild your life

Till now, you have spent your whole life only around children. Now that they have left for their flight, look at it as an opportunity rather than sadness. Instead of pulling the children back, move ahead yourself. This is the time when you can focus on your hobbies, goals, and new routines. Spend time with your friends and relatives. Strengthen your relationship with your partner. Go for a walk together, do yoga, or start an activity of common interest. When you yourself are happy and busy, your dependence on the children will be less, and they will also be happy to see you.

This is how the relationship will become strong.

The house looks green and lush when the children come for holidays or festivals. But even in these few days, they can spend only a little time with you. The rest of the time is spent with friends and in their own work, and in the meantime, the holidays are over. Here, keep in mind that more than the quantity of time spent with the children, pay attention to its quality. Whenever you are together, create an environment where they can share their thoughts without any fear or restriction. Listen to each other and understand. The real purpose of parenting is to create a relationship where both the child and the parent feel safe. A bond that has love, respect, and mutual understanding. When the child feels safe and important in the life of the parent, this relationship lasts for a long time. Instead of being possessive towards their children, parents should encourage them to become self-reliant.

Communication should be better.
When children are away, communication becomes very important. Children are becoming tech-savvy, so use technology to reduce this distance in life. Connect on internet media, create a family group on WhatsApp, share special photos and videos of your daily activities, but also understand that children may not always be available. If they are unable to answer the phone, do not take it personally. Avoid thinking or saying negative thoughts like 'My child has forgotten me', 'I am no longer important to him' or 'Now he does not even like to talk to me'. When talking to them, ask them about their daily routine and make them feel that you are listening to them without judging them.

Why hesitate to seek professional help
If you are feeling very lonely and depressed and are unable to handle things, do not hesitate to seek help from a professional. Talking to a psychologist can help you get through this situation. Children leaving home is a natural part of life. It is an opportunity for parents to start a new chapter in their lives and you can maintain a strong, healthy relationship with the children.

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